Second Wife Blues

After some analyzing, I’ve come to the conclusion that I am not over reacting when I go into depression or a bad mood when my authenticity as a wife is demeaned. For instance, the financial office representative calls me on my cell phone to let me know that because I’m not 100 % beneficiary, my signature is required on the form that transfers the money from one investment to another.

It’s not the fact that I’m not 100% beneficiary that bothers me. I don’t blame him for wanting to leave his money to his children. I’d do the same. It’s the fact that I am number two. Yup, in other words, poopoo. If I were number one, I’d be 100% beneficiary and the children would inherit the money after my death. Does this mean that I am not trusted as number two? Maybe. The point is, this is not even a consideration if you’re the first wife, so why is it if you’re the second?

State Laws and Financial representatives show more interest in my financial well-being than my husband shows. This is not to say that his interest in my financial well-being is lacking. On the contrary, he has provided well for me. But it’s true none-the-less.

Something else that gets my goat as a second wife is dealing with the Time Share people. After being on hold for literally 30 minutes, I am told they cannot talk to me because my name is not on the deed. Talk about irate. Robots without hearts are what they are. I couldn’t care less if a bomb dropped on them. So what if I stand to inherit the damn Time Share, I’m not allowed to talk to the stupid asses on the phone. Never mind inheriting it, I’m his wife and he has given phone consent for me to make arrangements, but still, this is not enough. I don’t even want the damn thing. I’m kind of glad I can’t talk to them. He has to do all the dealings with them, and he doesn’t seem to mind, perhaps because it keeps the time share SAFE from the second wife?

And finally, my husband says I think having both of our names put on important things is the answer to everything. He said this statement after I said if both of our names were on a safe deposit box it would not be sealed upon either of our deaths. Well, having our names together on paper certainly isn’t the answer to everything. And his comment is just one more thing about being a second wife that sent me into depression. He obviously holds a bitterness regarding past mergers.

My name must stand alone, as I.